Alone at Christmas and Happy: Take That Darlene Love!

2021.12.07 12:38 exscapegoat Alone at Christmas and Happy: Take That Darlene Love!

Due to family estrangement and some traumatic events around Christmas (a grandmother killed herself at Christmas before I was born, parents split up less than 3 weeks before Christmas, lots of fighting and excessive drinking at Christmas and 2 friends dying on the same day in December years ago), I'm content to do Christmas solo. I live by myself and don't have kids.
It was rough at first, but I've come to enjoy it. I've developed my own traditions. Instead of a Christmas tree, I have a standard time willow branch. It's lighted LED willow branches, with colored metallic shapes as a garland and I found a sun ornament I added as I relate to the pagan origins of the holiday.
I like to cook and enjoy good food, so I cook or order food beforehand. I also have to deal with commuting and long hours, so for me, simply relaxing is a good way to celebrate.
I get up, make myself a nice breakfast and drink coffee while watching the Yule Log. Books, movies or streaming show are on the agenda for the day. I have Christmas Eve off too this year, so I'll probably do something similar for the Eve.
Yet, going by other people's reactions, you would think I was sucker punching Santa and beating his reindeer to death before eating them.
I appreciate people inviting me and I thank them for the invitation. I'm grateful people think about me. That said, the people I'd spend Christmas with are all an hour or more away by car. I've tried hosting, but no one wants to come to my place because it's one of the smallest. So going to someone else's place means preparing a dish and driving. And I'm on their schedule instead of being able to relax and go at my own pace for cooking.
Driving, especially with bad traffic and aggressive driving, stresses me out and raises my anxiety levels The last pre-pandemic holiday gathering I went to, a 1 hour drive took two hours each way and going home, two drivers in front of me trying to line up for toll lanes nearly came to blows with each other. My car was boxed in behind them, so I couldn't easily get out. I was debating if I needed to take cover or not and if I needed to call 911. Fortunately, one of them was smart enough to not get out of the car and not engage and the traffic creeped forward.
To make it weirder, there's a part of the family I get along with well. But they can be inconsistent with invitations. One year, I'm invited, the next I'm not. I'm ok with that. But then the years they invite me, there's the "oh, we don't want you alone at Christmas" even though I thank them for the invite. And I'm thinking, well, it was apparently ok the other years you didn't invite me.
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2021.12.07 12:38 misspurplepotato First time I've been able to get all the rewards from an event. What now? Should I keep on fighting for a spot in the top 5?

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2021.12.07 12:38 malandro148 Hello guys, isso need some help with Dragonite and my Code is 9594 5882 6020

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2021.12.07 12:38 Some-Ad9713 How can there be rights and morality without free will? And how can non-moral agents violate rights and commit immorality?

With free will, non-moral agents, in other words things that are not moral agents, don't have free will, and so the popular claim is that "non-moral agents can not violate rights and/or commit something immoral". Anything non-moral agents do is claimed to be neutral, and amoral, while "moral agents can violate rights and/or commit something immoral". Without free will, humans would not be moral agents. They would be no different from other species, robots, etc. If other species, and inanimate objects, had no rights and could not "violate rights" and "commit immorality" for not being moral agents, humans would be amoral, would have no rights, and would not be able to "violate rights" and "commit immorality" for not being moral agents too.
Unless there are philosophical theories in which non-moral agents (e.g. other species, inanimate objects, etc) have rights and CAN violate rights and/or commit immorality (against each other as well as those outside their own group), in which the desires and actions of non-moral agents are not "amoral", and can be either moral or immoral? For instance, say, other species eating each other violate the rights of each other and commit immorality? Inanimate objects can be immoral and commit immorality? Let me know if there are philosophical theories like that.
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2021.12.07 12:38 ResolutionWeekly2025 How do I speak with my management about being put in situations I should never be in?

This is long; bare with me. But you can skip the first two paragraphs if you want.
I started out in the industry I'm in working for a company that went under and had poor management. He started out paying me **way** too low, but it was a way to get my foot in the door. Unfortunately, when switching jobs, they tend to base your rate of pay off of your previous employment. So even though I'm making nearly double what I used to, compared to others at the company, I'm not making much. I would like to escape this trap that I put myself in.
Our annual performance evaluations are coming up. Each year we receive a 2, 4 or 6% raise based upon how we performed that year. Last year, I actually received more than that because I exceeded expectations by *far.*. Since then I've been given more responsibilities than is normally expected from my job, so I plan to keep that going again this year. I do genuinely feel that I am a large asset to this company in an industry that is tapped and desperate for workers... The way the evaluations work is that we fill out a "survey" asking us to discuss and rate our performance, improvements, weaknesses, etc. Our manager does the same and then a private meeting is held to compare answers and any concerns and anything we want to expand upon is addressed. -- And I have a **BIG** issue I want to be addressed and this is where it gets tricky.:
It's hard to describe this to fully explain how bad the situation is without giving out TMI and outing myself, but this is my attempt: There is a coworker that has always given me hassle. This includes borderline stalking and sexual/emotional harassment to the point of telling me (presumably as a bad joke) that he was going to make sure I was anally assaulted when I die. *In this industry, that's more of a threat than a hypothetical situation.*. This happened the day before my two-week vacation so I let it go, thinking he might also have let it go by the time I get back. He did not. After more harassment related to the same things, I took it to HR. The result: Since I have no proof (pictures or video/audio recording of any kind is forbidden), they can't really do anything to him, but they made it so that we don't work the same shift anymore. (Except one day a week, when everybody works, but they try to keep us separate). Honestly, that's about the expected result for this kind of situation.
Ever since then, he has been bitter and an asshole towards *everyone.* He also reported ME for telling people about the situation. My partner works in the same industry. Does he really expect me not to tell him about this? **(Also my partner and I have taken active steps and spent actual money to ensure my safety should I die.)** A few more people have reported him for his behavior - not to the extent that I have, just for being an asshole. No matter what, he's always the victim. **I'M** the reason he's uncomfortable to work with. **SHE** is the reason he just "can't fucking say anything," as opposed to just trying to use tact (or just lack of insults?) If I take my work to another room, he runs and tells third party delivery people or anyone who will listen about how he's a nice guy but nobody likes him. He's been talked to, chewed out, warned, etc. There's no point. He's a cancer to this company. They can't tell him to just not be a miserable asshole all the time, because I'm sure he would love that too, if he could just turn it off.
We had an appreciation dinner from the company the other day. By the time I got there, the only seats available were next to him because nobody else wants to sit by him either. Of the people that know what happened (my supervisor and my manager obviously included), nobody offered to trade seats. Nobody cared. I cried in the restroom, had my partner pick me up, and left. (worth noting, they added that no +1s were allowed and that was *definitely* aimed at me and my partner). So not only was I put in that situation, but they told me I wasn't allowed to bring support either.
After I discuss this with my manager, I do not want this coworker to get another talking to. I want results. Whether it be a bump in pay because I'm not supposed to talk about it (shouldn't they give me a non-disclosure agreement with compensation for that alone?), him being fired, or finding jobs to do on Wednesdays (transport?) that will make it so we never even cross paths. **What is the best way to discuss AND word this that is convincing, eloquent, and professional?**
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2021.12.07 12:38 anchoo2kewl Crypto Withdrawal Rejected

I wanted my MIL to move from Bitbuy to to enjoy better staking rewards. She initiated a withdrawal last Wednesday for the full Crypto amount that went into a PENDING state. The next day, someone called her from Bitbuy asking where the money was being transferred to. She mentioned she was sending the money to Then she received an email yesterday with some generic questions such as:

This was strange because she already had a considerable BTC being held in BitBuy's wallet. Anyway, she answered the questions and noticed today her withdrawal status has changed to REJECTED. No email or phone call to explain why. I tried to look online and could not find any number to contact them. What should her next step be? I already asked her to send an email to support to enquire why the transfer was rejected. But I feel she is owed some explanation before they reject her request.
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2021.12.07 12:38 TechValor Google Pixel 6 & Pixel 6 Pro : Add Notification Light via an App | munchy

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2021.12.07 12:38 traumaslave2k Coturnix or bobwhite

My enclosure will be a sand bottom, 9'x5' block building. They will have access to the outside through a large window and a hatchdoor. The block building itself has windows and openings for ventilation. My question now is which type of quail I want. I planned on bobwhite. I was going to keep 1 male and 5 females. I would eat the eggs and incubate some of them. My worry is aggression. I have read more and more saying that bobwhites need to be kept in pairs. This leads me to keeping coturnix. I also like this idea because I want to have all different colors and coturnix allows that. My question with them is aggression. How many could I keep and what gender ratio? Or do I even need to worry about gender ratio?
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2021.12.07 12:38 Bacontoad Historic consequences of voluntary disarmament, a taboo against guns, and continued pacifism in the face of collapse: The Moriori Genocide

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2021.12.07 12:38 beannut_putter Yeah stubbing your toe sucks and all but

have you ever been a 12yo confident in your abilities deciding to go into the honors program in middle school only to realize you're not nearly as smart as your classmates but you're too afraid to back out so you decide to fake it till you make it for 4 years until you find yourself in an AP class you don't belong in getting three hours of sleep and hoping no one expects great things from you ever again?
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2021.12.07 12:38 kofan3678 Liv dominating Becky

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2021.12.07 12:38 bubbz41 Leaving my controls tech position

I posted here a while back about feeling like a strain on everyone I was working with, and well it was true that I was. I felt horrible for the tech basically babysitting me and my supervisor getting irritated with us for slowing production down. I finally got the nerve to ask them about it in a meeting together. I found out that basically the reason I got the job was because the hiring manager was looking for anyone to fill the opening before he quit. Which he did by hiring me. They supervisor and tech were fine with training me because of the situation that happened, but it wasn't quite how my position was supposed to go. So I left to go back to be an electrician for company that owns a dozen grain handling facilities. There is an upside that you guys might like. The reason for hiring a full on electrician is because every facility is getting entire electrical upgrades and they want to get me training and schooling for all the automation being installed. So as I left a controls position to go back to being an electrician I found out I will still be able to pursue the automation dream.
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2021.12.07 12:38 nahantdave Another National Grid nCAP portal question

After a round of corrections by Tesla to the interconnect request, NG has β€œconditionally approved” the request and it has now progressed to sub-step β€œPending Customer Decision”. There is no interface for me to do anything - is this a step that Tesla needs to take? (NG sent an automated message that failure to respond within 20 business days will lead to automatic rejection)
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2021.12.07 12:38 ZeusGato Just a reminder to self, DRS and my floor is $2,690,420.69 πŸ’Ž πŸ™Œ πŸš€πŸš€πŸš€πŸš€πŸš€

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2021.12.07 12:38 Dayton_Tripp_ Looking for raid 3572 5897 2401

Looking for T3 raids preferably but will join as many as I can.
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2021.12.07 12:38 EnglishRed232 Help choosing shields (S1)

Hey guys. I recently got a R.A.F.T and want to use it as my run about. I really love the look and feel of the ship.
I am looking to upgrade the components and want it to be able to take more damage. I understand the basic principles of shields, (and I'm using Erkul) but I don't really get about having two shields on the ship.
I'm looking to be able to soak up damage and flee rather than engage. Would I want one shield that has a high HP and therefore low regen coupled with a lower HP but quick regen shield, that can regen as the big shield is being depleted? If so, does it matter which slot they go in? Or would I just want two high HP shields. I have watched loads of videos etc and looked at stats but cant get my head around it.
It's quite a big topic and long question so I didn't want to just put it into the question thread as I think a lot of people will find it helpful.
Thank you!
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2021.12.07 12:38 Josh13241000 What are good military careers besides a soldier?

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2021.12.07 12:38 nutt-tree Hey guys! Last week I posted these Cruellas here! If you are interested in the patterns, you can buy it now at πŸ₯° (I had some problems with the site last week πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ But now it's up and running!! πŸŽ‰)

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2021.12.07 12:38 TheGreatestJaggi Getting ready for Toy Day!

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2021.12.07 12:38 Select_Explorer_9301 Bouncing a LoRa message off the Moon | Electronics360

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2021.12.07 12:38 alicat707 Sent here from r/crochet

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2021.12.07 12:38 Lorfinor BEFORE RESURRECTIONS - The Matrix Trilogy Tribute!

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2021.12.07 12:38 MarvinTownsend55 """" Lancer yellow initial d"""

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